Will You Tube Lose Your Divorce Case

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If you want a favorable decision from a family law judge, don’t play around with fire (social media.)  Divorce is serious business, a family often times is fragmented, futures changed and lifestyles are at risk – divorce is between two people and it’s best to keep it that way. 

Although this divorce on You Tube is most definitely on the cutting edge of stupidity, it’s still a perfect example of emotions laced with temper tantrums where one party has definitely lost control.  http://www.foxnews.com/story/2008/07/22/man-wins-divorce-from-angry-wife-in-youtube-video/

The social media should not be the venues used to hang out your dirty laundry – it’s a perfect way to lose a divorce case. Sharing intimate personal information about oneself or their spouse on Facebook or You Tube has lost many divorces in family court. Sure we have freedom of speech, but when used inappropriately on the social media your spouse and his or her attorney may use it against you in a court of law. 

There are a few big don’ts when contemplating or going thru divorce that all litigants should etch on their forehead. These could be considered “divorce don’t commandments” that are guaranteed to precipitate an unfavorable divorce decision from the judge.

1. Don’t let anger or uncontrolled emotions control your actions.
2. Don’t act like a loose goose in the courtroom with devious body language, profanity and inappropriate gestures.
3. Don’t go to court to start a dog fight with the judge – you will lose!
4. Don’t miss your court date, signatures on divorce forms or neglect filling out interrogatories – you will lose!
5. Don’t use the social media to vent about your spouse or share personal information – you will lose!

Keep emotions in tact, use good manners and be respectful of the judge, your soon to be ex and his or her attorney.  The family law judge doesn’t have the time to be a referee for your theatrics and won’t tolerate having his or her courtroom turned into a three ring circus. What you do and say in divorce court will influence the judge and may be the reason you receive an unfavorable decision.

Be careful what you do on the social side - it may and probably will be held against you.  

As Always,

Little Tboca 

                                                                           

Divorce the Facebook Way

A Facebook divorce is becoming quite popular - it's like a one stop shopping venue for a spouse or attorney. What you say and what you do often times alters the outcome of your divorce. Although many people feel that their Facebook page is protected and a great place to expose your dirty laundry, this isn't true.

Using the social media to hook up with old friends, relatives or new acquaintances is great if one monitors the information that follows him or her on the social networks. It is a  proven fact that many divorces are the result of information found on the social networks. Custody of children is sometimes decided by the information found on Facebook or other social sites.

Many attorneys or spouses are using Facebook to gather evidence and information to build their divorce case. Actually, the social media has given attorneys an entirely new venue for preparing divorce cases - many say that information found on Facebook is the reason their clients win their divorce case.

At this time it's perfectly legal to gather evidence from the social media, which means your information isn't private or personal anymore. It's human nature to share tidbits of information with close friends or family members, but the social media is not a safe place for this type of sharing.

It's a false premise that flirting or explicit conversations on the Internet are any different than hanging out in a bar or actually participating in a one night stand. Adultery may be proved on your Facebook page via information, pictures and other information. Proving that you are the parent of choice to be the primary caretaker of the children becomes difficult if your lifestyle is exposed on Facebook.

There's quite a few old wives tales running around when it comes to the social media. The information found isn't sacred and can be used against you in a divorce case.  Information may be found that actually substantiates adultery on your part and it can be used in divorce court. Actually an inappropriate picture that a friend posts followed by questionable comments on your page can be used by your spouse's attorney.

Bottom line, if you don't want to be a participant in a Facebook divorce - it may be best to refrain from participating in the social media until the divorce is final.  Divorces are very contentious at times and one can blow a favorable outcome in divorce court because they allow their anger and emotions to dictate their actions on social sites.

A few don'ts to ponder: (1) Don't nib around on your spouse's Facebook page - it's illegal, (2) Don't create  a sexy photo gallery on Facebook exposing a new relationship - it can be used against you, (3) Don't assume that Facebook is protecting your personal information - Facebook has many rights and may use information as they see fit.

As Always,

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Little Tboca