Divorce Isn't A Cure All

Although divorce seems to be a fad, it may have future problems that many don’t anticipate or realize.  

Divorce is not a cure all for your marital problems and often times divorce actually increases your financial obligations and can dramatically change your present life style.

A family law judge will to the best of his or her ability follow the laws in your State, but that doesn’t mean division of property and assets aren’t always divided equally. 

Nor does it mean that divorce will relieve either man or woman of their responsibility to their children or their financial obligations. 

Although the old antiquated alimony laws are changing in many States, there is a possibility that the one who has given up their professional life to raise the children will in fact receive alimony for a period of time that allows them to further their education or do whatever is necessary to rejoin the workforce. 

Sometimes when it comes to child custody, the judge has a real struggle because parents aren’t residing in the same State.  He or she must try to decide what is in fact in “the best interest” of the children and that can be a tough decision to make due to lack of concrete information.  The judge knows one parent will have limited visitation, because of the commuting factor and he also knows that to the children this can be devastating almost like totally losing a parent. 

The judge can’t ensure that the parents will maintain a civil relationship when it comes to visitation or custody – many parents misuses and abuse the judge’s orders using them as a weapon against their ex. 

So don’t expect a bed of roses once the divorce is final – in fact you may experience a living “hell” until the children reach age of maturity.  The family law judge always hopes that both parties will consider the welfare of the children and act like adults working  together on child custody arrangements.

Contested divorces can be pretty much like playing Russian roulette with your future – one never knows until the judge passes down his or her final decision how their day in court will play out.  

The family law judge’s job is to follow the laws in their State – it isn’t their responsibility or job to punish your soon to be ex even though you feel that you’ve been mistreated during your marital relationship. 

So if you’re contemplating divorce, study the family laws in your State.  If you’re going pro se a consultation with an attorney might help you in making that tough decision or you might attend some of the workshops and divorce venues provided by your State. 

So often emotions dictate one’s actions and that in itself is pretty scary.  Treat divorce as a business transaction, get a handle on the emotions if you can and proceed with caution.

As Always,

Little Tboca

www.caseboss.com