Divorce - Emotions Dictate Actions

Possibly the biggest mistake made by those contemplating divorce is allowing their emotions to dictate their actions. Contested divorces usually end up in a potentially dangerous roller coaster ride that can and often ends up in a super crash, because one party didn’t have their seat belt on…

It’s human nature to want to punish and pay back your spouse, and that’s exactly the reason so many people settle for detours. Getting a divorce isn’t easy by any stretch of the imagination and you owe it to yourself to slow down and learn what is involved in the divorce process.

Detours like paying $149 bucks for divorce forms that often aren’t approved by your state’s courts or falling for the false information that is offered on going pro se (self - representation.)  Pro se divorce is a tough way to go if you and your spouse can’t agree on child custody, alimony or division of marital assets.

Anger, confusion and the intense desire to take control of one’s life can lead to detours that actually derail your chance to control your destiny. Before heading down the bumpy divorce road, find out what your options are and develop a game plan. 

One of the safest ways to get the correct divorce forms is from your state’s government website. Each state offers a roadmap explaining how to file for divorce. Go to your government website and search for divorce.

Before filing for divorce study your state family laws. Find out what your state’s Statute of Limitations, learn how to legally serve papers on your spouse and verify what family law court will handle your divorce case.  This is just preliminary information, but will prevent many mistakes as you head into the divorce process.

Most of the state government sites give you step by step instruction on filing your papers, answering interrogatories, temporary orders etc. If children are involved, study the information at theses sites on child custody, child support and parenting time. There’s a wealth of knowledge available if you just take the time to study and read it.

Another excellent resource is http://family.findlaw.com/divorce/  this site offers in depth information on family law, divorce, child custody, alimony, division of marital assets and offers the government websites in each state where you can get your divorce forms.

It’s your life, your future and it is possible to experience a favorable decision from the family law judge. Control your emotions, develop a good game plan and be diligent about finding answers to all of your questions. 

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