Divorce - Put on Your Big Boy and Girl Pants

To all pro se divorce litigants, don't fall into the false trap of being victimized by propaganda and false information. 

Put on on your big boy and girl pants and create a divorce case that will receive a favorable decision from the family law judge. First and foremost, don't sink into the pits of the "blame game" - it's not healthy and you're defeated before you start.   

Why are pro se divorce litigants blaming others for there mistakes? Although pro se (self representation) is the new fad on the street for divorce, it’s not a free “get out of marriage” card.  There’s much to do about nothing – it isn’t the court’s fault or the family law judge’s problem nor can the blame be on your ex who has legal counsel

The laws of our land give each and every person the right to represent themselves, but along with this right come a jillion responsibilities.  Yes, by representing oneself you won’t have to pay for legal counsel - maybe you can’t afford a lawyer or possibly you just feel empowered by being given the legal right to represent yourself. 

Over 50% of the pro se divorce litigants can’t afford legal counsel but they can take the time to attend the workshops and venues offered by their State that will assist them in preparing for their divorce.

It’s inexcusable to omit signatures, miss timelines and neglect filling out interrogatories correctly. Some pro se litigants even fill out the incorrect divorce forms and this may be the fault of some Internet sites that have sold them the wrong divorce forms. Divorce forms vary from State to State – be sure you get the correct forms.

Before jumping on the divorce train, it’s crucial that you study the family laws in your State, know the statute of limitations, courtroom etiquette and learn how to prepare a divorce case.  As said earlier, you have the right to represent yourself, but you also have the responsibility of learning what that right actually entails.

Take advantage of your State venues that offer divorce assistance. Read the family laws in your State, know the Statute of Limitations, learn how to fill out interrogatories and be sure you use the correct divorce forms, which each State offers online. Learn how to prepare a powerful divorce case.  

Quit the blame game: (1) The divorce judge isn’t your legal counsel, (2) The court staff is not allowed to fill out forms for you, per law, and (3) The courts are already clogged – you don’t get 2 or 3 re-dos.  Representing oneself is difficult, but doable if you’re willing to roll up your sleeves and do the homework. 

You have one day in court, one small window of time to be heard by a family law judge and going half prepared isn’t an excuse anymore. Reading, studying and attending workshops doesn’t cost a thing – use the many resources offered to you and walk out of divorce court with a favorable decision in your behalf. 

 

As Always, 

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