Don't Lose Your Divorce Case

Maybe you've been contemplating divorce for a while, but getting up one day and whacking your spouse with the news that you’ve filed for divorce may not be in your best interest. 

If divorce looms on the horizon in the near future - here is a good rule of thumb to follow. Keep your dirty laundry at home - social media may result in loosing your divorce case. Don’t let the egg come before the chicken!

It’s not wise to broadcast via Face Book, Twitter or other social media or share with your supposedly best friend that you hate your spouse and intend to pay him or her back. What you say out of anger or runaway emotions on a social venue may in fact affect a judge’s decision. 

It is critical to your future and the future of your children (if children involved) that you make rational well thought out decisions.  Usually it takes two to tango and both parties share responsibility for a marriage crash. If you feel all avenues have been exhausted for repairing the broken marriage, then go forward with Plan A and prepare for your day in court. 

Best idea at this time is to become a good detective – go back several years and gather up all documents that pertain to your assets. Start a journal and keep a daily log of money spent, children’s activities, medical bills, retirement funds and all paid receipts.  Now is the time to record any and all information that will be beneficial to you in court - record credit card bills, medical bills, bank statements etc. 

After doing this extensive homework it’s time to sit down and talk with your spouse.  Don’t let emotions or anger enter into this conversation – it’s a strong possibility that your spouse may want to end the marriage too and is open to a divorce by mutual agreement. This saves both parties the expense of legal counsel or arbitration. 

If on the other hand this turns into a free for all or nasty divorce you need to understand what it means to create a strong powerful case for your day in court. Your objective is to eliminate the “he said, she said” malarkey and replace it with the cold hard facts. 

There is a new company, not launched yet who has openings for those contemplating or going though divorce.  Go to www.caseboss.com   No secret charges or hidden costs involved it's free for one year – you’ll find a great team of people who will answer questions and assist you in your case building. 

As Always

Little Tboca

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Where's the Last Little Duck?

It seems a bit outdated to speak about getting your ducks all in a row, but it’s a proven fact if you forget the last duck your day in court may be disastrous. That last little duck is the secret that loses many divorce cases – without that little duck you don’t have a strong case to present to the judge. A winning divorce case takes time to prepare, sorting receipts, documents, assets etc., but it's a must do if you want to present a strong case in divorce court. 

Let’s assume you’ve filed divorce papers, followed state laws on serving your spouse, have temporary orders in place and answered all interrogatories. It would appear that you’ve been diligent in doing your homework and the judge’s decision should be in your favor.

Did you forget that the judge literally holds your life in his or her hands? The judge has a small window of time to hear your case and your spouse has all of his or her ducks in a row. They have prepared a case backed by hard facts eliminating the “he said, she said” testimony – they can back all of their statements with paid receipts, accurate timelines and verifiable proof. 

Don’t be a loser and walk out of court thinking what you should have, could have but didn’t do…  Help is just a click of the mouse away! 

Check out www.caseboss.com – the boss that works for you. Here you’ll find information on preparing a divorce case along with support from a great team who will assist you in preparing. This service is free, no strings or hidden agendas to those contemplating or in the midst of a divorce.  Very few things in life are free, but this is one time you’ll discover free assistance, answers to your questions and free support.

Go to www.caseboss.com  and start building a powerful case for your day in court.

As Always,

Little Tboca

Will You Lose Your Divorce Case?

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You're contemplating divorce and about to lose your case in court! How to lose your divorce and receive an unfavorable decision from the family law judge.  It's true that some divorce litigants just can't keep their emotions in tact and they've decided to re-invent the family laws in their State. So having said that - are you losing your divorce due to lack of knowledge, uncontrolled emotions and the gnawing desire to be the winner and punish your soon to be ex.

When one decides to take the law in their own hands, they will not just stub a toe or get their hands smacked  by a family law judge they are insuring that their future will be mighty bleak and without recourse. Don't fall into the unknown black divorce pit where there's no possible way to recover from your bad decisions.

Suppose you and your spouse have been having marital problems for years and finally you come to the conclusion that divorce is the only answer. Before talking with your marriage partner about divorce, you quietly and methodically create what you think is a winning chess game.

Since you are the financial genius in the relationship, you have access to savings and investments allowing you to transfer, hide and rearrange marital assets. You start skimming from the savings, bank accounts and other funds without detection.

Next you decide to move out of the marital home - you tell your spouse the move is better for both of you. Remember, you will owe rent on another place and actually still have responsibilities for maintaining the other household.  Moving out means one thing - you will have more expenses and once out of the house the soon to be ex isn't going to welcome you back in your home again.

Lord forbid if you are so out of control that you threaten or abuse your spouse. This can become a slam dunk for the ex when you land in divorce court. Judges frown on threats and physical abuse.

Don't use the social media as a place to air all of your dirty laundry, because your ex's attorney will use this as proof that you are an unfit parent or irresponsible party. What you say on the social media can and will be held against you...

Maybe you're in a payback mode and you want to flaunt your new girlfriend or boyfriend in front of your spouse and children. If you've bought this new playmate expensive jewelry, clothes or have taken them on luxurious vacations, you're going to rue the day that you felt so superior and in control.

Dress appropriately for divorce court, treat the judge with respect referring to him as your honor and when speaking about the children or assets be sure to clarify the statements by saying our children, our home, our assets etc.  Don't make faces at your soon to be ex or their attorney and don't set their shaking your head or pointing your finger at them.

Your future lays in the hands of the family law judge - conduct and demeanor will all have an impact on the judges final decisions. Don't try to reinvent the family laws in your State - be honest when you fill out the divorce forms and include everything that you and your spouse have mutually.

As Always,
Little Tboca

"He Said, She Said Won't Win a Divorce Case

During the divorce process, cover your fanny so to speak and build a powerful case for your day in family law court. Check with your state and determine what type of evidence is acceptable in family law courts.  Now’s the time to quietly act as a good detective – turn your story into a fact based divorce case.

Pro se litigants have an extensive amount of work to do – they must study family laws and become familiar with the courtroom process. Eliminate the “he said, she said” testimony by preparing a powerful divorce case.  Divorce judges will not only appreciate your hard work, but in all probability make a favorable decision in your behalf. 

Go back a couple of years, gather up receipts showing date time and amounts, expenses how paid, pay stubs, deeds, bank statements, inventory of household items along with evidence of the value or worth of the items etc. 

Preparing your evidence for child custody is extremely important. Tell a story based on hard facts about your role in mentoring, supporting and caring for the children. Show medical bills including psychiatric or counseling for the child or children, bank statements, cancelled checks and proof of payment serve as strong evidence.  A log or journal showing time spent with children, the children’s extra curricular activities, vacations and anything that pertains to the welfare of the children.

Learn how to label document correctly, gather evidence, log evidence and prepare it for court. A few “don’ts,” many you’ve probably heard about, but a reminder may prevent you from shooting yourself in the foot. 

1. Don’t discuss your divorce or other relationships on the social media – attorneys are wizards at using Facebook, twitter and if there’s a story out there they will find it.
2. Don’t use your credit cards unless there’s an emergency and don’t pay off cards that you share with your spouse at this time. Stay on a strict budget at this time.
3. Don’t text about your divorce and don’t get involved in an adulterous relationship – family law judges sort of frown on this…
4. Don’t snoop on your spouse’s personal affairs – there’s a fine line between snooping and gathering evidence. Be sure anything you do is legal in your State!
5. Last but most important go to court prepared to tell your judge your story with hard facts to back up all of your statements. 

If you need a hand up in building a divorce case, go to www.caseboss.com – they have free assistance to help those contemplating or going thru divorce. Absolutely no hidden charges - the service is free for one year from the day you sign up. This company is preparing to launch in the near future and have an outstanding team standing by to answer your questions. 

As Always,
Little Tboca

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Divorce - Moose on the Loose

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The divorce case you’re carrying in your briefcase is so airtight that no divorce judge in the USA would dare cross you or give you an unfavorable decision. This is merely wishful thinking on your part!

As you’re taking that final walk into the courtroom, your demeanor and body language isn’t exactly what one would perceive as friendly, in control and calm. Instead you look like a moose on the loose looking for a fight.

Going into the courtroom with all of your hot buttons turned on will blow your day in court clear out of the water.  So you’re mad, your emotions are verging on hatred for your spouse and you don’t care if the whole world knows your feelings, so what?  Not a good philosophy in the courtroom if you’re praying for a favorable decision from the family law judge.

Believe it or not some people forget their court date – not good this is a sure way to lose your case by default.  A judge once said, “can the cheap theatrics,” he or she means watch the body language and verbal interruptions in my courtroom. 

Don’t ever use the social media as a trash bucket – don’t threaten your spouse, defame them, brag about an adulterous relationship or make libelous statements on social media because it will come back to haunt you and bite more than a little piece out of your b—t.

There are occasions when people act in such an outrageous manner in the courtroom or hallways that they’re cuffed and hauled off to a jail cell. Don’t be one of these statistics.

You have a right to be heard in court, but you don’t have a right to disrupt the judge’s courtroom. You’re in control of your destiny – don’t blow your chances for a favorable decision by the judge.  Control emotions, dress appropriately for court, speak respectfully to the judge and have a strong fact laden case to present to the judge.

A divorce is like an amputation: you survive it, but there's less of you.
Margaret Atwood 

As Always,

Little Tboca

Pro Se Divorce Litigants Must Do Their Homework

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Divorce litigants are facing extreme almost insurmountable roadblocks in 2014.  Before filing for divorce it’s important to understand what lies ahead.  Judges have a backlog of divorce cases and their courtrooms are clogged due to the fact so many litigants are trying to represent themselves in the courtroom. 

Each year courts are facing financial pains – their funding continues to be slashed, staff must be reduced or furloughed and some courts are closing their doors or adjusting hours.  Along with the financial problems, courts have been clobbered with pro se litigation.  People are trying to save money via self representation and/or they believe they have the ability to master the family law divorce laws and follow courtroom etiquette and procedures. 

Clogging in the courtroom comes from a variety of errors made by pro se litigants.  Many are not taking the time to file correctly for divorce following the Statute of Limitations.  Many don’t know how to fill out or take the time to answer interrogatories, ask for temporary orders or even complete divorce forms correctly.

Signatures are missing, papers not served on spouse timely; consequently pro se litigants may have their case dismissed or walk out of the courtroom with an unfavorable judgment.   

Many pro se litigants fail to prepare their case correctly or just assume that they will sit down and have a friendly little chat with the judge and a case isn’t really necessary.  Pro se litigation is becoming an epidemic that is heading south by the day. 

By law you have a right to represent yourself, but by law you also have a responsibility to study family law and learn how to prepare a favorable case for your day in court.  Court staff can’t give you legal support, no one is standing around to pick up the pieces for you – self representation requires hours of study and homework. A low percentage of pro se divorce cases have a favorable outcome. Pro se litigants can’t keep blaming the attorneys, judges, court staff or the system for their failures.

Here is one solution for divorce litigants that might help  – www.caseboss.com  This is a company getting ready to launch that is offering free assistance for one year to a few litigants who want to build a powerful divorce case for their day in court.

Their team will respond quickly to your inquiries or questions – but the bottom line is this: (1) No one cares as much about your case as you do, (2) You have taken on the job of legal counsel, and (3) There’s no easy way to win a divorce case in court.

As Always,

Little Tboca

Divorce - Dads Beware!

Hey, Dads it’s time to wake up, crawl out of the world of complacency and stop believing that you’re soon to be ex is watching out for you.  The truth is as we humans all know there comes a time in life that you opt to stop the foolishness and take care of number one – often it’s a dirty war out there when divorce lands in your lap.

Don’t assume your little “use to be best friend” will want to divide assets fairly, or go easy on alimony payments or child support.  Usually that person has second thoughts about what fairness, consideration and kindness really mean.  They turn into a bloody vulture and decide to destroy your hopes of a future – they will attempt to break your bank and leave you with a broken bank.

Not all women react the way that is described above, but a large percentage if it’s a contentious divorce is on the hunt and waiting for the kill.  Don’t be the prey!

There are precautions that a man can take before being drug through the streets of divorce.  A consultation with an attorney (usually free) is a good first step.  Go to your state’s government site and study divorce and family laws in your State. 

Learn how to calculate child support, which most Government sites will walk you through – that way you won’t be blind-sided in divorce court.  Remember you will need a home, apartment or some kind of housing when the divorce is finalized.  Check out rent etc. and possibly you’ll need a vehicle too, if there is only one in the family.

If your spouse quit her job to stay at home and raise the children, you’re probably going to pay alimony.  If you want to share custody of the children, be sure you can give the divorce judge proof that you’ve been a good parent and have a decent place for the children when they come to visit. 

Don’t assume that your divorce will be different and everyone will live happily ever after – be proactive and take charge of your life.  If you’re going to represent yourself in Court learn how to serve divorce papers, answer interrogatories and fill out divorce forms correctly. 

Brush up on family law in your State - Findlaw is a very helpful website that has some very good information on divorce, alimony, child support etc.

Remember the best interests of the children usually are the divorce judge’s number one priority.  Those going pro se should learn Court protocol and how to prepare a winning divorce case.

As Always,

Little Tboca

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Pro Se Litigants Wear Attorney's Hat

The face off between your spouse’s legal counsel and yourself (Pro se) isn’t a pretty picture. One is experienced in courtroom procedure, knows family law like the back of their hand and the other is in between a rock and a hard place.  So what would be the best approach for a pro se litigant when he’s going into the game with two strikes against him?

Many remember the story about the shepherd boy and Goliath – a young boy had come to the table to do a man’s job.  You can go to divorce court prepared to wear the hat of an attorney if you’re willing to roll up your sleeves, sweat and do the hard work.  

Don’t depend on a bunch of glorified advertisement about how easy it is to represent yourself in a court of law – it’s not easy.  It takes determination, resilience and the ability to acquire the tools that will allow you to present a strong case in court. 

The government site in your state will get you off to a good start, find out exactly what divorce forms are required, how to serve your spouse, what the Statute of Limitations are and determine which court in your area will hear your divorce.

The government sites usually offer support by addressing the laws on divorce with or without children, alimony, child custody, division of marital assets and most states have workshops, self help venues that are easily accessed. 

If you’re going to whip it on Goliath, then learn everything you can about family law and courtroom protocol. Don’t ever assume that the divorce judge will give you a favorable decision because you’re a good person, have been responsible and faithful to your soon to be ex. 

You need to go back several years document everything concerning the marital relationship, make three copies of the information and have hard evidence to present to the family law judge. 

Here’s an example of the “he said, she said” testimony that won’t hold up in court.  If you go to your banker and say I deposited $700 in my account last week and it wasn’t credited to my account. The banker will say, “Mr. Jones show me evidence, a receipt or proof that you made this deposit.

This is exactly what the divorce judge will say in court,” show me proof that you’ve been the primary caregiver of the children, that you’ve been a responsible party. Learn how to craft and build a powerful winning case for the judge. It’s your life, your future and the divorce judge has a small window of time to review evidence and make final decisions. www.caseboss.com hasn't launched yet and offering the use of their software free for one year - learn how to organize your documents, prepare a winning case for divorce court.  

As Always,

Little Tboca

Are You a Team Player With Your Attorney?

Although divorce attorneys have acquired a lot of negative publicity, the fact remains there are many great divorce attorneys who are prepared to represent you in good faith.  

Theirs is a profession just like any other and it’s their livelihood, of course there are charges for the service they offer. Like physicians they have a high overhead and must pay the monthly bills. Divorce isn't a free commodity!

Do your homework find a list of attorneys who have a good divorce track record, select one from that list and set up a preliminary consultation.  Normally there isn’t any charge to this first meeting – so go prepared with questions that need answered. Ask what the hourly charges are, how much if any deposit required and set up a feasible schedule limiting office visits, telephone calls etc. 

Take control of the attorney/client relationship – it’s not fun to be blindsided with unnecessary attorney fees. Your attorney will be the first one to emphasize the importance of working together as a team – even a good attorney can’t go it alone so be prepared to participate in the partnership.

Difficulties that arise due to a divorce litigants false expectations include; (1) Because you’ve been a good parent and good provider you expect a favorable decision by the judge, (2) Because you have been the main breadwinner, you feel that most of or a large portion of the marital assets should be yours, (3) You expect the attorney to win your case regardless of family law or the many errors you’ve made during the marriage, (4) You decide in your mind what is morally correct and expect a favorable decision from the judge based on your moral perception.

False expectations immediately create a tension between attorney and client.  The attorney needs all information regarding marital assets, child care, participation with child or children, financial obligations, pre nuptial contract if any, retirement funds or savings etc. Give the attorney all information concerning the marital relationship. Paint a detailed picture of the marriage including all documents showing paid receipts, time, date and resolution.

Don’t misrepresent or lie to your attorney - lies can be the reason for an unfavorable decision from the divorce judge.  Team work equates to this – you give your attorneys the tools that he or she needs to build a winning case in court.  An attorney needs proof, not a bunch of “he said, she said,” gibberish.

As Always,

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Little Tboca

Don't Blow Your Divorce in the Courtroom

Divorce is one of the most financially traumatic things you can go through. Money spent on getting mad or getting even is money wasted.
Richard Wagner  

You’ve passed the contemplating divorce stage and you’re headed for court for the showdown. You’ve been stellar in your homework, divorce forms and divorce papers are in order – you dotted ever “I” and crossed every ”T.” 

The divorce case you’re carrying in your briefcase is so airtight that no divorce judge in the USA would dare cross you or give you an unfavorable decision. This is merely wishful thinking on your part!

As you’re taking that final walk into the courtroom, your demeanor and body language isn’t exactly what one would perceive as friendly, in control and calm. Instead you look like a moose on the loose looking for a fight.

Going into the courtroom with all of your hot buttons turned on will blow your day in court clear out of the water.  So you’re mad, your emotions are verging on hatred for your spouse and you don’t care if the whole world knows your feelings, so what?  Not a good philosophy in the courtroom if you’re praying for a favorable decision from the family law judge.

Believe it or not some people forget their court date – not good this is a sure way to lose your case by default.  A judge once said, “can the cheap theatrics,” he or she means watch the body language and verbal interruptions in my courtroom. 

Don’t ever use the social media as a trash bucket – don’t threaten your spouse, defame them, brag about an adulterous relationship or make libelous statements on social media because it will come back to haunt you and bite more than a little piece out of your b—t.

There are occasions when people act in such an outrageous manner in the courtroom or hallways that they’re cuffed and hauled off to a jail cell. Don’t be one of these statistics.

You have a right to be heard in court, but you don’t have a right to disrupt the judge’s courtroom. You’re in control of your destiny – don’t blow your chances for a favorable decision by the judge.  Control emotions, dress appropriately for court, speak respectfully to the judge and have a strong fact laden case to present to the judge.

A divorce is like an amputation: you survive it, but there's less of you.
Margaret Atwood 

As Always,

Little Tboca

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Nothing is Free About Divorce

It's everywhere, free divorce, free divorce forms, do it yourself and fill out your own divorce papers - is an epidemic and may be knocking at your door.

Those contemplating divorce or in the process of divorce are actually victims of a defunct system gone awry.

Divorce is marketed like the latest and greatest commodity to hit the streets. Buy it you’ll like it and for a few bucks Mr.or Mrs. Jones you can do it yourself, no problem and live happily ever after. 

Internet companies promoting and advertising divorce are springing up like mushrooms daily. It’s as popular as apple pie and ice cream and you’re getting your daily dose of misinformation for breakfast, lunch and dinner.

Whether you’ve hired legal counsel or you’re representing yourself there are a few things that can be done to prevent being blindsided during your divorce.  It’s a great rule of thumb to realize that divorce isn’t all that it’s advertised to be and there will be heartaches, lifestyle changes and obstacles every inch of the way.

The very basic information that may help is this – the divorce laws in each state vary and there’s no one size fits all. If you want the right divorce forms and the right information regarding family law in your State, you have a couple of options.

Usually, it’s possible to have a consult with legal counsel free of charge – this will give you a general overview of the first steps that must be taken when filing for divorce.  Another choice and this is a very good one – go to your state government website and locate the divorce information which includes forms and sometimes tutorials. There are workshops and other self help venues available if you but ask…  

Contested divorces or pro se divorces are tough anyway you slice them and getting a favorable decision from the family law judge is your end goal. 

As Always,

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Little Tboca

2014 May Not be the Best Year for a Divorce

2014 will be very unpredictable for those contemplating divorce - it will be another year of Government glitches and unlawful compromises and deals. It's hard to know how Obamacare will play out in 2014, but it's a safe bet that Americans will have the Government gophers sneaking in their pocketbook and snitching their money.

Those deliberating on divorce may want to step back and review all of their options before jumping into the divorce frying pan. Obamacare has created an instability in our job market, because businesses will have to cut back employee hours to part time or just cut back on employees period.  Either way think before you jump into a divorce because your ex may not have money for alimony and not much if any for child support - he or she may be without a job.

Another factor which is huge is this: the parent who has the responsibility of providing health insurance for his family may not in fact have the finances to pay a large co pay or deductible, which in some of the Obamacare plans is somewhere between $4500 to $6000 per family member before insurance kicks in - so it may be wise to reconsider jumping into a divorce until you see what 2014 has on the horizon.

One more thing that I've written about many times is about those who are planning to represent themselves in the courtroom or going pro se.  Regardless of the reasons for going pro se, it's difficult and over 70% of those representing themselves leave the courtroom totally beaten up because they weren't prepared for their day in court.

Pro se divorce isn't  merely filling out a few divorce forms. You've decided to wear the hat of an attorney meaning it's going to take alot of studying and homework. The judge can't make favorable decisions for you if you haven't prepared your case for court. Do you know the family laws in your state?  Do you know the Statute of Limitations in your State?  Do you know how to fill out interrogatories?  Do you know courtroom protocol?  Do you know the laws in your State on serving divorce papers to your spouse?  

If your spouse has an attorney, do you feel qualified to get a favorable decisions from the judge?  There are so many unknowns when it comes to divorce, divorce judges, new State laws on alimony etc. - one must get a handle on their anger and emotions and make good business decisions when divorce is in your future.

I didn't write this article to scare anyone - it's just so very important to analyze your options before jumping into divorce.  Could you settle out of court maybe settle for collaborate divorce?  Could you and your spouse sit down together and negotiate fair terms that will benefit each of you or is there a chance that divorce could be put on hold for a while?

Lastly, remember the children in fact your priority should be the children first - so whatever your decision may be about divorce always do what is best for the children.

As Always,
Little Tboca

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If Divorce is the Only Solution

Getting up one day and whacking your spouse with the news that you’ve filed for divorce may not be in your best interest.  If divorce looms on the horizon in the near future - here is a good rule of thumb to follow. Don’t let the egg come before the chicken!

It’s not wise to broadcast via Face Book, Twitter or other social media or share with your supposedly best friend that you hate your spouse and intend to pay him or her back. What you say out of anger or runaway emotions on a social venue may in fact affect a judge’s decision. 

It is critical to your future and the future of your children (if children involved) that you make rational well thought out decisions.  Usually it takes two to tango and both parties share responsibility for a marriage crash. If you feel all avenues have been exhausted for repairing the broken marriage, then go forward with Plan A and prepare for your day in court. 

Best idea at this time is to become a good detective – go back several years and gather up all documents that pertain to your assets. Start a journal and keep a daily log of money spent, children’s activities, medical bills, retirement funds and all paid receipts.  Now is the time to record any and all information that will be beneficial to you in court - record credit card bills, medical bills, bank statements etc. 

After doing this extensive homework it’s time to sit down and talk with your spouse.  Don’t let emotions or anger enter into this conversation – it’s a strong possibility that your spouse may want to end the marriage too and is open to a divorce by mutual agreement. This saves both parties the expense of legal counsel or arbitration. 

If on the other hand this turns into a free for all or nasty divorce you need to understand what it means to create a strong powerful case for your day in court. Your objective is to eliminate the “he said, she said” malarkey and replace it with the cold hard facts. 

There is a new company, not launched yet who has openings for those contemplating or going though divorce.  Go to www.caseboss.com   No secret charges or hidden costs involved it's free – you’ll find a great team of people who will answer questions and assist you in your case building. 

As Always

Little Tboca

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Little Tboca 

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Divorce Team - is Crucial

Although divorce attorneys have acquired a lot of negative publicity, the fact remains there are many great divorce attorneys who are prepared to represent you in good faith.  

Theirs is a profession just like any other and it’s their livelihood, of course there are charges for the service they offer. Like physicians they have a high overhead and must pay the monthly bills. Divorce isn't a free commodity!

Do your homework find a list of attorneys who have a good divorce track record, select one from that list and set up a preliminary consultation.  Normally there isn’t any charge to this first meeting – so go prepared with questions that need answered. Ask what the hourly charges are, how much if any deposit required and set up a feasible schedule limiting office visits, telephone calls etc. 

Take control of the attorney/client relationship – it’s not fun to be blindsided with unnecessary attorney fees. Your attorney will be the first one to emphasize the importance of working together as a team – even a good attorney can’t go it alone so be prepared to participate in the partnership.

Difficulties that arise due to a divorce litigants false expectations include; (1) Because you’ve been a good parent and good provider you expect a favorable decision by the judge, (2) Because you have been the main breadwinner, you feel that most of or a large portion of the marital assets should be yours, (3) You expect the attorney to win your case regardless of family law or the many errors you’ve made during the marriage, (4) You decide in your mind what is morally correct and expect a favorable decision from the judge based on your moral perception.

False expectations immediately create a tension between attorney and client.  The attorney needs all information regarding marital assets, child care, participation with child or children, financial obligations, pre nuptial contract if any, retirement funds or savings etc. Give the attorney all information concerning the marital relationship. Paint a detailed picture of the marriage including all documents showing paid receipts, time, date and resolution.

Don’t misrepresent or lie to your attorney - lies can be the reason for an unfavorable decision from the divorce judge.  Team work equates to this – you give your attorneys the tools that he or she needs to build a winning case in court.  An attorney needs proof, not a bunch of “he said, she said,” gibberish.

As Always,

Little Tboca

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Divorce - Can Head South

Divorce is one of the most financially traumatic things you can go through. Money spent on getting mad or getting even is money wasted.

Richard Wagner  

You’ve passed the contemplating divorce stage and you’re headed for court for the showdown. You’ve been stellar in your homework, divorce forms and divorce papers are in order – you dotted ever “I” and crossed every ”T.” 

The divorce case you’re carrying in your briefcase is so airtight that no divorce judge in the USA would dare cross you or give you an unfavorable decision. This is merely wishful thinking on your part!

As you’re taking that final walk into the courtroom, your demeanor and body language isn’t exactly what one would perceive as friendly, in control and calm. Instead you look like a moose on the loose looking for a fight.

Going into the courtroom with all of your hot buttons turned on will blow your day in court clear out of the water.  So you’re mad, your emotions are verging on hatred for your spouse and you don’t care if the whole world knows your feelings, so what?  Not a good philosophy in the courtroom if you’re praying for a favorable decision from the family law judge.

Believe it or not some people forget their court date – not good this is a sure way to lose your case by default.  A judge once said, “can the cheap theatrics,” he or she means watch the body language and verbal interruptions in my courtroom. 

Don’t ever use the social media as a trash bucket – don’t threaten your spouse, defame them, brag about an adulterous relationship or make libelous statements on social media because it will come back to haunt you and bite more than a little piece out of your b—t.

There are occasions when people act in such an outrageous manner in the courtroom or hallways that they’re cuffed and hauled off to a jail cell. Don’t be one of these statistics.

You have a right to be heard in court, but you don’t have a right to disrupt the judge’s courtroom. You’re in control of your destiny – don’t blow your chances for a favorable decision by the judge.  Control emotions, dress appropriately for court, speak respectfully to the judge and have a strong fact laden case to present to the judge.

A divorce is like an amputation: you survive it, but there's less of you.
Margaret Atwood 

As Always,

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Little Tboca

Get Organized for Your Divorce

There are so many questions and very few answers on how to build a winning case for your divorce.  Those contemplating divorce struggle because they aren't familiar with the family laws in their State and even after they file for divorce the big question remains - "how can I prepare for divorce court?" 

So what does one need to do after filing divorce papers and requesting temporary orders?  Probably learning how to prepared your divorce case should be a priority at this time. Your goal should be to eliminate the "he said, she said" evidence and replace it with actual facts that will support your testimony in divorce court.  

Nobody cares about your case more than you do. Finding yourself in court can be a scary and frustrating experience. CaseBossTM has been there before, and we can help. Stop shuffling through papers! We'll help you keep your documents and information secure and organized. Simply scan, upload, and tag your documents with keywords to help you keep track of what's important. Are you working with an attorney? Any documents you store in CaseBoss can be shared with your attorney. Do you have a question for your attorney regarding a document? Want to be sure your attorney sees the value in a particular document? Just write your attorney a note in CaseBoss to flag the document. Divorces are difficult, but they don't have to be unfair. Go to www.caseboss.com and learn how to organize and document pertinent information that refers to your divorce.  The Caseboss team is offering use of their website for one year free of charge - they have a great support team that will help you every step of the way if you have questions or need assistance.  Without a doubt Caseboss is the boss that works for you! As ALways, Little Tboca  www.caseboss.com

Prepare A Powerful Divorce Case Today

Sometimes I've mentioned a company who assists those contemplating divorce or going through divorce.   www.caseboss.com is a very unique website that is free at this time - anyone who signs up now may use it for one year without any charges.  No hidden charges or one more thing to buy - the company hasn't launched yet so now's a perfect time to actually get something for free.

You will learn how to organize documents by date, time and subject. The whole concept of this website is to show you how to eliminate the "he said, she said" testimony which is very weak and difficult for a judge to sift through your divorce story without actual proof. A strong divorce case is one that has actual proof to back up your testimony in court - judges appreciate information that will assist them in making favorable decisions.

This site is great for pro se litigants and or those who have attorneys.  It's a perfect way to team up with legal counsel and will save time, money and frustration for you and your attorney.  If you're representing yourself, it's a great place to prepare your case for court.

Go to www.caseboss.com and get started today.  They have a great team that is available to help you along the way - all you have to do is ask for some assistance.

Many of you have read my blogs and realize that judges say that over 50% if of pro se litigants go to court totally unprepared.  Attorneys are using this site too for their clients and feel it helps build a strong attorney/client relationship.

Understandably most people run when they hear something is free, because it does sound too good to be true - this is one time you'll be happy because the website is free with no hidden charges later down the road.

As Always,
Little Tboca

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Time Out Before Divorce

Getting up one day and whacking your spouse with the news that you’ve filed for divorce may not be in your best interest.  If divorce looms on the horizon in the near future - here is a good rule of thumb to follow. Don’t let the egg come before the chicken!

It’s not wise to broadcast via Face Book, Twitter or other social media or share with your supposedly best friend that you hate your spouse and intend to pay him or her back. What you say out of anger or runaway emotions on a social venue may in fact affect a judge’s decision. 

It is critical to your future and the future of your children (if children involved) that you make rational well thought out decisions.  Usually it takes two to tango and both parties share responsibility for a marriage crash. If you feel all avenues have been exhausted for repairing the broken marriage, then go forward with Plan A and prepare for your day in court. 

Best idea at this time is to become a good detective – go back several years and gather up all documents that pertain to your assets. Start a journal and keep a daily log of money spent, children’s activities, medical bills, retirement funds and all paid receipts.  Now is the time to record any and all information that will be beneficial to you in court - record credit card bills, medical bills, bank statements etc. 

After doing this extensive homework it’s time to sit down and talk with your spouse.  Don’t let emotions or anger enter into this conversation – it’s a strong possibility that your spouse may want to end the marriage too and is open to a divorce by mutual agreement. This saves both parties the expense of legal counsel or arbitration. 

If on the other hand this turns into a free for all or nasty divorce you need to understand what it means to create a strong powerful case for your day in court. Your objective is to eliminate the “he said, she said” malarkey and replace it with the cold hard facts. 

There is a new company, not launched yet who has openings for those contemplating or going though divorce.  Go to www.caseboss.com   No secret charges or hidden costs involved – you’ll find a great team of people who will answer questions and assist you in your case building. 

As Always

Little Tboca

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