Divorce - Assuming and Here Say Evidence

So often one stumbles and falls when they assume something to be true - this often occurs in a contested divorce.

One party in the marital relationship believes they have  been a good person, a good provider and excellent parent.  They feel that any divorce judge would acknowledge that they in fact had been an honest active participant in the relationship and deserve a big piece of the divorce pie.

They also assume that the family divorce laws in their State will protect them and what's good for the goose is also good for the gander meaning a family law judge will dole out a favorable decision in their behalf when it comes to custody, alimony and division of marital assets.

They have made a decision (not always a well - informed decision) to represent themselves in court, because they believe beyond a doubt that once the judge here's their side of the story he or she will smile on them favorably.  FYI, if your story is based on here say evidence or better know as "he said, she said" philosophy usually one can expect a disastrous crash in the courtroom.

The divorce judge uses the family laws as his or her tools that assist them in making informed decisions.  Just because one feels he or she can sit down and have a little chit chat with the judge telling him or her all the gory details of the marital relationship does not make much sense.

Divorce judges hear the same ole divorce stories day in and day out. Each story is stated in different ways with a few frills added - not much surprises them and frankly if you don't give them some concrete information and documentation to work with they are pretty much stonewalled.

If you go to court without documented information showing time, date, receipts actual proof regarding the marital relationship, the judge has nothing to work with when making a decision. Possibly your soon to be ex has legal counsel that has all information documented. This definitely puts you in a bad light when representing yourself if you're depending entirely on your "he said, she said" evidence.

When it comes to contentious divorce, don't assume or go half prepared because there are many different ways of interpreting the family laws. Study the family law in your State, go to workshops or venues offered in your State and learn how file papers, prepare interrogatories and prepare your divorce case.

As Always,
Little Tboca

www.caseboss.com