Men's Take on Divorce

No doubt men and women come from a different planet or so it seems. When it comes to divorce the little women gets engaged and plunges headlong into the many facets of divorce. She's more than a little bit pro active, because her anger and emotions have kicked in big time. Often times, she's not logical nor willing to communicate because in her eyes she's right and you're just plain wrong.

This person that you took the marriage vowels with has just gone south from friend, soul mate to number one enemy. In her mind she wants the house, the kids and even the kitchen sink. Of course not all women approach divorce this way, but a very large percentage goes for the "gusto" big alimony, the house, the children and child support. Family law were created to protect both parties, yet these laws can be misused and abused.

Men usually approach divorce in an entirely different manner.  First they believe that even though divorce is imminent that his spouse will be honest, fair and forthright when it comes to their divorce. That's the first biggest mistake, this person is no longer your partner nor does she worry about your feelings or future at this time.

Next mistake is assuming that the laws of our land are in place that will protect you come hell or high water, but this is strictly an old wives' tale.  Family laws can be manipulated by legal counsel until you will look like the scum of the earth.

Hopefully this will be a wake up call for some men.  Take the time to check you states' family laws regarding divorce.  Find out about division of marital assets, child custody and each spouse's obligations. Prepare yourself next with some hard questions for a divorce attorney and at least have a free consultation. Often times it better to work two jobs and have legal counsel than to try to fly on your own.  At least after your consultation you'll be better prepared and know what to expect.

If your're going pro se, then start studying the family laws in your State. Go to your State government site and put divorce in the search box.  Next learn how to build a powerful case for court - be prepared to stay up into the wee hours of the night studying. It's your life, your future and your hard earned money that's involved.

Building a divorce case is pretty much like taking on the job of a detective. Learn to document, organize and arrange your case by time, subject and date. A great place to start would be at www.caseboss.com - they are offering their website for one year free without any hidden expenses.

 Free is free - just take your time to do the homework and email their great team if you're in the dark and don't know how to start.  They have an awesome team there to assist you.

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