Social Media & Divorce

Getting up one day and whacking your spouse with the news that you’ve filed for divorce may not be in your best interest.  If divorce looms on the horizon in the near future - here is a good rule of thumb to follow. Don’t let the egg come before the chicken!

It’s not wise to broadcast via Face Book, Twitter or other social media or share with your supposedly best friend that you hate your spouse and intend to pay him or her back. What you say out of anger or runaway emotions on a social venue may in fact affect a judge’s decision. 

It is critical to your future and the future of your children (if children involved) that you make rational well thought out decisions.  Usually it takes two to tango and both parties share responsibility for a marriage crash. If you feel all avenues have been exhausted for repairing the broken marriage, then go forward with Plan A and prepare for your day in court. 

Best idea at this time is to become a good detective – go back several years and gather up all documents that pertain to your assets. Start a journal and keep a daily log of money spent, children’s activities, medical bills, retirement funds and all paid receipts.  Now is the time to record any and all information that will be beneficial to you in court - record credit card bills, medical bills, bank statements etc. 

After doing this extensive homework it’s time to sit down and talk with your spouse.  Don’t let emotions or anger enter into this conversation – it’s a strong possibility that your spouse may want to end the marriage too and is open to a divorce by mutual agreement. This saves both parties the expense of legal counsel or arbitration. 

If on the other hand this turns into a free for all or nasty divorce you need to understand what it means to create a strong powerful case for your day in court. Your objective is to eliminate the “he said, she said” malarkey and replace it with the cold hard facts. 

There is a new company, not launched yet who has openings for those contemplating or going though divorce.  Go to www.caseboss.com   No secret charges or hidden costs involved it's free – you’ll find a great team of people who will answer questions and assist you in your case building. 

As Alway

Little Tboca

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Divorce - What is in Your Best Interest?

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Getting up one day and whacking your spouse with the news that you’ve filed for divorce may not be in your best interest.  If divorce looms on the horizon in the near future - here is a good rule of thumb to follow. Don’t let the egg come before the chicken!

It’s not wise to broadcast via Face Book, Twitter or other social media or share with your supposedly best friend that you hate your spouse and intend to pay him or her back. What you say out of anger or runaway emotions on a social venue may in fact affect a judge’s decision. 

It is critical to your future and the future of your children (if children involved) that you make rational well thought out decisions.  Usually it takes two to tango and both parties share responsibility for a marriage crash. If you feel all avenues have been exhausted for repairing the broken marriage, then go forward with Plan A and prepare for your day in court. 

Best idea at this time is to become a good detective – go back several years and gather up all documents that pertain to your assets. Start a journal and keep a daily log of money spent, children’s activities, medical bills, retirement funds and all paid receipts.  Now is the time to record any and all information that will be beneficial to you in court - record credit card bills, medical bills, bank statements etc. 

After doing this extensive homework it’s time to sit down and talk with your spouse.  Don’t let emotions or anger enter into this conversation – it’s a strong possibility that your spouse may want to end the marriage too and is open to a divorce by mutual agreement. This saves both parties the expense of legal counsel or arbitration. 

If on the other hand this turns into a free for all or nasty divorce you need to understand what it means to create a strong powerful case for your day in court. Your objective is to eliminate the “he said, she said” malarkey and replace it with the cold hard facts. 

There is a new company, not launched yet who welcomes those contemplating or going though divorce.  Go to www.caseboss.com   No secret charges or hidden costs involved – you’ll find a great team of people who will answer questions and assist you in your case building. 

As Always

Little Tboca



Divorce & Social Media Don’t Mix

Teen makes bad joke on Facebook and ends up in jail – very bad joke yes and he is paying dearly for his prank. Faces terrorism charges, badly beaten up in jail and his young life just headed south. Is social media controlling your future and life?

About 60% divorce attorneys depend on social media to offer substantial evidence against the spouse. The UK says 80% of the divorce attorneys use the social media to prove infidelity and adulterous relationships.

The American Academy of Matrimonial lawyers estimate that 1 out of 5 divorces are tracked right back to Facebook. Spouses and divorce attorneys are like hound dogs and they sniff out and often find information that will damage a husband or wife’s divorce.

Check this site out from Lawyers.com on divorce statistics. http://family-law.lawyers.com/divorce/Marriages-Families-Under-Cyber-Attack-on-Facebook.html

There is an ongoing debate about social media actually causing divorces – most likely the marriage or relationship was in the tanks before one of the spouses resorted to sharing personal information on social media sites. Why do people use the social media? Is it anger, uncontrolled emotions or the intense desire to pay back their spouse. Why do people going thru or contemplating divorce feel the need to share their dirty divorce secrets online?
 

Don't fall victim to the social media, because you have one day in court - don't blow your chances of receiving a favorable decision from the judge. Controlling emotions, especially the desire to pay back a spouse isn't just a good idea, it's crucial. Your future and life depends upon your actions and reactions.

As Always,
Little Tboca

As Always, Little Tboca

Divorce – The YouTube Way

If you want a favorable decision from a family law judge, don’t play around with fire (social media.)  Divorce is serious business, a family often times is fragmented, futures changed and lifestyles are at risk – divorce is between two people and it’s best to keep it that way. 

Although this divorce on youtube is most definitely on the cutting edge of stupidity, it’s still a perfect example of emotions laced with temper tantrums where one party has definitely lost control.  http://www.foxnews.com/story/2008/07/22/man-wins-divorce-from-angry-wife-in-youtube-video/

The social media should not be the venues used to hang out your dirty laundry – it’s a perfect way to lose a divorce case. Sharing intimate personal information about oneself or their spouse on facebook or youtube has lost many divorces in family court. Sure we have freedom of speech, but when used inappropriately on the social media your spouse and his or her attorney will use it against you in a court of law. 

There are a few big don’ts when contemplating or going thru divorce that all litigants should etch on their forehead. These could be considered “divorce don’t commandments” that are guaranteed to precipitate an unfavorable divorce decision from the judge.

1. Don’t let anger or uncontrolled emotions control your actions.
2. Don’t act like a loose goose in the courtroom with devious body language, profanity and inappropriate gestures.
3. Don’t go to court to start a dog fight with the judge – you will lose!
4. Don’t miss your court date, signatures on divorce forms or neglect filling out interrogatories – you will lose!
5. Don’t use the social media to vent about your spouse or share personal information – you will lose!

Keep emotions in tact, use good manners and be respectful of the judge, your soon to be ex and his or her attorney.  The family law judge doesn’t have the time to be a referee for your theatrics and won’t tolerate having his or her courtroom turned into a three ring circus. What you do and say in divorce court will influence the judge and may be the reason you receive an unfavorable decision. 

As Always,

Little Tboca