Divorce Attacked by Obamacare

Most of us bragged for years about living in the land of the free. But, in 2013 a major glitch has arrived on the scene. It's called ACA (Obamacare) and at this time it appears Americans have just lost their freedom of choice. The Government is trying to take over our healthcare insurance hook line and sinker. 

Dr. Ben Carson said : "If we don’t stop Obamacare, we’ll end up with a single-payer system.  Dr. Carson goes one step further and compares Affordable Care Act (AKA Obamacare) to slavery saying, “It’s the worst thing since slavery.  Dr. Carson says that Obamacare is just paving the pathway allowing our Government to take over American Healthcare." 

Obama started Obamacare with the idea of attacking Insurers, Physicians, Surgeons and the entire medical field.  His strategy was to place Americans in such a comprising position that they had to depend on the Government. This is happening already as the few that are signing up for the healthcare program find themselves totally dependent on the Government.  

If you are contemplating divorce and you have children, it might be a good idea to find out what the future looks like for you when it comes to healthcare.  Possibly the company you work for will either dismiss you or cut your hours drastically, because in 2014 businesses are about to be attacked by Obamacare. No one can predict the actual outcome, but most analysts feel jobs will be in jeopardy.

Obamacare website has lost information, scrambled it sometimes listing a child as parent and actually ate your information so until you see something positive in writing from your Insurer it may be wise to hold off on divorce at this time. Find out what your deductible or co-pay will be - that deductible must be paid up front before receiving medical care so it's crucial to know that missing number.  

There are too many unknowns out there at this time. No one knows if they will have a job, lose their full-time hours, how much healthcare will cost, if they are even covered by healthcare insurers at this time, if unemployment benefits will be extended and if Obama and gang will change the rules for healthcare in the near future.

Maybe jumping into divorce at this time isn't the best choice - possibly keeping the marital relationship in tow is the best business decision. There's a possibility that it may take two paychecks just to survive the Government takeover of our healthcare - 2014 isn't looking too bright and shiny at this time. It appears that there may be insurmountable problems in the near future due to Obamacare.  

It’s obvious that Obama, Democrats and the Liberal News Media know by now that Obamacare is doomed and beyond salvaging. Their strategy is to continue this fiasco – they want to turn our healthcare into a single payer system?  

In the meantime, Obama and the Democrats are destroying our economy and weakening our Nation. Don’t forget that Obama has a slush fund that allows him to spend whatever he wants as long it’s under the Obamacare guise. This slush fund is good thru 2014 and ends in 2015. 

Ask your Senators to tell you daily how much is being spent on the promotion of Obama care and repair of a faulty website.  I’ll bet there’s not one Republican or Democrat that can give you accurate figures – that should tell you something. 

As Always,

Little Tboca

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Till Death Do They Part

Often times the picture perfect marriage where two people vow to love, care for and honor till death do they part falls apart at the seams. What appeared to be a perfect union between a man and women has disintegrated over the years and it seems that the marriage is fractured beyond repair. Neither party had used divorce as a get out of jail free card - neither one contemplated divorce for years...

Neither one is pointing a finger or blaming their spouse; they just wake up one morning and realize that the once powerful relationship no longer exists.  

They both agree that it’s time to go their separate ways. No need to hire legal council, after all they’re intelligent adults and both are willing to sit down and complete the necessary paperwork to end their marriage. 

They will divide up assets, retirement and financial obligations insuring that neither one will suffer needlessly. This is a fairytale divorce without hero or heroine – no villain and no magical being to come to the aid of the hero.

This type of divorce which definitely works for some is called a non-contested or mutual divorce. Both parties agree on division of property, assets and financial obligations.  If children are involved, usually both parents want to share custody so joint custody is agreed upon. 

But what happens when neither spouse can agree on division of property, assets, financial obligations and child custody. Oftentimes one spouse hires a high powered attorney to represent them while the other opts to be a pro se litigant. Unless the pro se litigant is prepared to do an extensive amount of homework and preparation odds are against them. 

Due to their lack of judicial knowledge and courtroom procedure they’re at the mercy of the spouse who has legal council. One has a case to present to the Judge and the other has a story laced with “he said, she said” testimony. Although many judges have empathy for the pro se litigant, their hands are tied and they must make determinations on information at hand.

The American Bar Association and many judges say, “Pro Se litigants often lose more then they should when representing themselves,” because the pro se litigant doesn’t know how to prepare his or her case based on hard facts. There are many workshops and self help information venues for the pro se litigants, but few take advantage of this type of support. 

An Arizona company not yet launched is extending a hand up to  pro se litigants for a year without any charges or hidden surprises.  Go to www.caseboss.com  The service is free absolutely no strings attached, it will help the pro se litigant prepare a powerful case for divorce court. 

Their team is waiting to assist you and answer your questions while you learn to prepare your case for your day in court.

1. Judges have little patience with pro se litigants or legal counsel who comes to Court unprepared.

2.  Judges have a small window of time and make final decisions based on verified information presented to them.

3.  Judges are in control of your future – decisions are made on hard facts and not “he said, she said” information. 

As Always,

Little Tboca

Don't Forget the Children

When divorce knocks at the door often times the father and mother are preoccupied in their individual missions that they forget the children. One spouse is high tailing it out of Dodge because selfishly they consider “divorce” a lifeline and a pathway to freedom.  The other spouse sees no freedom in sight; they see their world as they once knew it going up in smoke.

Notice that neither parent thought of the children first – they were too busy arming themselves and preparing for battle.  This has nothing to do with their love for their children – most parents love their children unconditionally.  It’s all about priorities sort of like which comes first the chicken or the egg.  If you are contemplating divorce, possibly you should sit down with your spouse and discuss the welfare of the children. 

They both feel that they’re in a sink or swim mode and their first instinct is to save themselves and deal with the children later.  During this survival instinct one or both decide to use the children as pawns. They degrade each other in front of the children and try to get the children to take sides. 

How evil, these little angels are just left there dangling without an advocate in their corner.  Sometimes dad or mom are so infatuated with their new playmate there isn’t any time to hang out with their kids.

The other spouse is on a never ending roller coaster ride of emotions, anger - they’re obsessed with the desire to cremate their once loving soul mate leaving them unfit to be around the children.

So what about the kids, who really cares about the kids?  Shouldn’t the kids be the first priority when divorce is on the horizon?  There are judges out there who are children’s advocates and they do everything in their power to protect the children.

One of these judges is a great lady (Judge Ann Kass) from New Mexico and she believes the courts should give more weight to the children’s rights than the rights of the parents.

Honorable Judge Ann Kass decided to include a “nesting” plan for some extremely out of control parents.  Nesting is when the children remain in their home and the parents with suitcase in hand take turns moving in and out of the children’s home.

This was Judge Ann Kass’s way of leveling the playing field where neither parent would have total control.  The parents experienced what the children will be going thru as they are shuffled back and forth with suitcase in hand.

“Nesting” seems rather extreme, but it encourages parents to put their children at the top of their priority list.  Divorce is a home wrecker and children are pretty much at the mercy of the parents unless the judge intervenes. 

Before jumping into a divorce, take time to think about your children’s welfare physically and emotionally. There’s no cut and dried solution when there’s a divorce with children. 

A few things that will ease the pain of divorce for your children is: (1) Both parents need to communicate a message to their children that they are loved, (2) Never make the children choose sides – don’t use them as pawns, (3) Both parents should do whatever it takes to help the children thru the confusing transitions created by divorce, and (4) Sit down with the children and assure them that the divorce isn’t their fault.

It’s a proven fact that children want your time, your love and the security you can offer them, not lavish gifts or expensive toys. 

Love Can’t Be Purchased – it’s a God given commodity that your children deserve!

As Always,

Little Tboca

www.caseboss.

Where's the Last Little Duck?

It seems a bit outdated to speak about getting your ducks all in a row, but it’s a proven fact if you forget the last duck your day in court may be disastrous. That last little duck is the secret that loses many divorce cases – without that little duck you don’t have a strong case to present to the judge. A winning divorce case takes time to prepare, sorting receipts, documents, assets etc., but it's a must do if you want to present a strong case in divorce court. 

Let’s assume you’ve filed divorce papers, followed state laws on serving your spouse, have temporary orders in place and answered all interrogatories. It would appear that you’ve been diligent in doing your homework and the judge’s decision should be in your favor.

Did you forget that the judge literally holds your life in his or her hands? The judge has a small window of time to hear your case and your spouse has all of his or her ducks in a row. They have prepared a case backed by hard facts eliminating the “he said, she said” testimony – they can back all of their statements with paid receipts, accurate timelines and verifiable proof. 

Don’t be a loser and walk out of court thinking what you should have, could have but didn’t do…  Help is just a click of the mouse away! 

Check out www.caseboss.com – the boss that works for you. Here you’ll find information on preparing a divorce case along with support from a great team who will assist you in preparing. This service is free, no strings or hidden agendas to those contemplating or in the midst of a divorce.  Very few things in life are free, but this is one time you’ll discover free assistance, answers to your questions and free support.

Go to www.caseboss.com  and start building a powerful case for your day in court.

As Always,

Little Tboca

Best Interest of the Children - Divorce

Best Interest of the Children

The “Best Interest of the Children” is a phrase worth remembering.  If your divorce is being contested, the judge may be the one who has to make the final custody decisions.  The priority of most family law judges is the children, because technically they are acting as a liaison for the children.  Thank goodness divorce judges put the children first.

If the parents can work out the custody situation together actually thinking about the best interest of their child or children, it can be a win win situation for both parents and the children.

When both parents have been equal or almost equal caregivers, possibly joint custody would be a good choice. This allows parents to make decisions for the children on education, health, extra curricular activities, religion etc. Joint custody does appear best for the parents and/or children - when the children are shuffled back from one home to the other it may be a hard adjustment for the children to make.

Judges will delve into the joint custody issue, because he or she wants to feel that both parents are accountable, responsible and capable of making decisions together in the best interest of the child or children.  It’s a difficult call for a judge, because they are trying to decide if both parents are equal in their parenting capabilities and if both parents can work as a team to mentor, love and care for the little ones. 

Physical custody and legal custody are often intertwined.  The physical piece of this type custody means the child will live with one parent the majority of the time. This parent is considered the “custodial parent.”

The non custodial parent may be granted physical custody which means he or she will be a decision maker in important issues like health, education and religion etc.

With unmarried parents, laws in most states favor giving the mother sole custody if in fact she has demonstrated that she is a good parent. If the mother is unable to care for the child, the other parent (father) usually gets custody.

Family law judges get beaten up for making the tough custody decisions, but remember they consider the child first and what is in the “best interest of the child.”  

Custody of the children is the toughest decision family law judges must make, because sometimes it seems both parents have shared equal responsibility in rearing the children.  At times when the child or children are older the judge may talk with them and ask them their preferences. 

It is a good idea to check out your state’s family laws specifically the child custody laws regarding primary caregivers. Both parents should try to make the best choice for the children and not use the children as pawns in their divorce.

As Always,

Little Tboca

Turn Off the Hot Buttons in Divorce Court

ivorce is one of the most financially traumatic things you can go through. Money spent on getting mad or getting even is money wasted.
Richard Wagner  

A divorce is like an amputation: you survive it, but there's less of you.
Margaret Atwood 

You’ve passed the contemplating divorce stage and you’re headed for court for the showdown. You’ve been stellar in your homework, divorce forms and divorce papers are in order – you dotted ever “I” and crossed every ”T.” 

The divorce case you’re carrying in your briefcase is so airtight that no divorce judge in the USA would dare cross you or give you an unfavorable decision. This is merely wishful thinking on your part!

As you’re taking that final walk into the courtroom, your demeanor and body language isn’t exactly what one would perceive as friendly, in control and calm. Instead you look like a moose on the loose looking for a fight.

Going into the courtroom with all of your hot buttons turned on will blow your day in court clear out of the water.  So you’re mad, your emotions are verging on hatred for your spouse and you don’t care if the whole world knows your feelings, so what?  Not a good philosophy in the courtroom if you’re praying for a favorable decision from the family law judge.

Believe it or not some people forget their court date – not good this is a sure way to lose your case by default.  A judge once said, “can the cheap theatrics,” he or she means watch the body language and verbal interruptions in my courtroom. 

Don’t ever use the social media as a trash bucket – don’t threaten your spouse, defame them, brag about an adulterous relationship or make libelous statements on social media because it will come back to haunt you and bite more than a little piece out of your b—t.

There are occasions when people act in such an outrageous manner in the courtroom or hallways that they’re cuffed and hauled off to a jail cell. Don’t be one of these statistics.

You have a right to be heard in court, but you don’t have a right to disrupt the judge’s courtroom. You’re in control of your destiny – don’t blow your chances for a favorable decision by the judge.  Control emotions, dress appropriately for court, speak respectfully to the judge and have a strong fact laden case to present to the judge.

A divorce is like an amputation: you survive it, but there's less of you.
Margaret Atwood 

As Always,

Little Tboca

www.caseboss.com

Will You Lose Your Divorce Case?

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You're contemplating divorce and about to lose your case in court! How to lose your divorce and receive an unfavorable decision from the family law judge.  It's true that some divorce litigants just can't keep their emotions in tact and they've decided to re-invent the family laws in their State. So having said that - are you losing your divorce due to lack of knowledge, uncontrolled emotions and the gnawing desire to be the winner and punish your soon to be ex.

When one decides to take the law in their own hands, they will not just stub a toe or get their hands smacked  by a family law judge they are insuring that their future will be mighty bleak and without recourse. Don't fall into the unknown black divorce pit where there's no possible way to recover from your bad decisions.

Suppose you and your spouse have been having marital problems for years and finally you come to the conclusion that divorce is the only answer. Before talking with your marriage partner about divorce, you quietly and methodically create what you think is a winning chess game.

Since you are the financial genius in the relationship, you have access to savings and investments allowing you to transfer, hide and rearrange marital assets. You start skimming from the savings, bank accounts and other funds without detection.

Next you decide to move out of the marital home - you tell your spouse the move is better for both of you. Remember, you will owe rent on another place and actually still have responsibilities for maintaining the other household.  Moving out means one thing - you will have more expenses and once out of the house the soon to be ex isn't going to welcome you back in your home again.

Lord forbid if you are so out of control that you threaten or abuse your spouse. This can become a slam dunk for the ex when you land in divorce court. Judges frown on threats and physical abuse.

Don't use the social media as a place to air all of your dirty laundry, because your ex's attorney will use this as proof that you are an unfit parent or irresponsible party. What you say on the social media can and will be held against you...

Maybe you're in a payback mode and you want to flaunt your new girlfriend or boyfriend in front of your spouse and children. If you've bought this new playmate expensive jewelry, clothes or have taken them on luxurious vacations, you're going to rue the day that you felt so superior and in control.

Dress appropriately for divorce court, treat the judge with respect referring to him as your honor and when speaking about the children or assets be sure to clarify the statements by saying our children, our home, our assets etc.  Don't make faces at your soon to be ex or their attorney and don't set their shaking your head or pointing your finger at them.

Your future lays in the hands of the family law judge - conduct and demeanor will all have an impact on the judges final decisions. Don't try to reinvent the family laws in your State - be honest when you fill out the divorce forms and include everything that you and your spouse have mutually.

As Always,
Little Tboca