Don't Lose Your Divorce - "He said, she said"

During the divorce process, cover your fanny so to speak and build a powerful case for your day in family law court. Check with your state and determine what type of evidence is acceptable in family law courts.  Now’s the time to quietly act as a good detective – turn your story into a fact based divorce case.

Pro se litigants have an extensive amount of work to do – they must study family laws and become familiar with the courtroom process. Eliminate the “he said, she said” testimony by preparing a powerful divorce case.  Divorce judges will not only appreciate your hard work, but in all probability make a favorable decision in your behalf. 

Go back a couple of years, gather up receipts showing date time and amounts, expenses how paid, pay stubs, deeds, bank statements, inventory of household items along with evidence of the value or worth of the items etc. 

Preparing your evidence for child custody is extremely important. Tell a story based on hard facts about your role in mentoring, supporting and caring for the children. Show medical bills including psychiatric or counseling for the child or children, bank statements, cancelled checks and proof of payment serve as strong evidence.  A log or journal showing time spent with children, the children’s extra curricular activities, vacations and anything that pertains to the welfare of the children.

Learn how to label document correctly, gather evidence, log evidence and prepare it for court. A few “don’ts,” many of you have probably heard about, but a reminder may prevent you from shooting yourself in the foot. 

1. Don’t discuss your divorce or other relationships on the social media – attorneys are wizards at using Facebook, twitter and if there’s a story out there they will find it.
2. Don’t use your credit cards unless there’s an emergency and don’t pay off cards that you share with your spouse at this time. Stay on a strict budget at this time.
3. Don’t text about your divorce and don’t get involved in an adulterous relationship – family law judges sort of frown on this…
4. Don’t snoop on your spouse’s personal affairs – there’s a fine line between snooping and gathering evidence. Be sure anything you do is legal in your State!
5. Last but most important go to court prepared to tell your judge your story with hard facts to back up all of your statements. 

If you need a hand up in building a divorce case, go to www.caseboss.com – they have a team waiting to help those contemplating or going thru divorce showing.

As Always,

Little Tboca

www.caseboss.com