Divorce to like an amputation. Sometimes it's necessary but it should be
avoided if at all possible because it brings about a permanent disability.
Bill Doherty, DrBillDoherty.org
avoided if at all possible because it brings about a permanent disability.
Bill Doherty, DrBillDoherty.org
It’s not a mystery that divorce is now a common household word – about 1 out of 2 marriages fall by the wayside. Psychologist will give you their slant on why two people decide to part ways – they’ll say lack of communication, personal differences, religion, the children etc. It’s possible that “norm and technology” could be the culprits.
The “norm” changes almost as often as we change our underwear or brush our teeth. There was a time when the father was the breadwinner and the mother stayed at home running the household and raising the children. Both parents participated in mentoring, disciplining and loving their children.
But as the norm changed so did the family dynamics. Mothers ventured out into the real world looking for their pot of gold. They wanted a better education, a job and most of all they wanted to get out of the dependency pit; they wanted to fly on their own.
The family foundation suffered dramatically, father’s started losing their identity and the children lost their clout and were no longer a top priority. Father and mother were both working and someone else had to take the job of mentoring and raising the children. Teachers, daycare technicians, baby sitters and of course grandparents were assigned the role of parenting.
About the same time, good parents jumped on the “Spock” bandwagon and set the children free, whatever that means. The family structure toppled and the children ran the household. Love took on a new connotation – it was all about gifts, material things and freedom.
The high tech society kicked in computers dominated the scene – the scuttlebutt on the street was that the computer age would free parents up, give them more time with their families. None of that happened!
Fathers and mothers became unwilling victims of the high tech society that is still gobbling them up. Both parents are on a fast train to nowhere working longer hours, making less money and literally living separate lives. They become strangers in their own homes as marriage starts disintegrating.
Could divorce be the result of a high tech society that has engulfed the daily lives of two people? The norm for marriage has gone from love, honor and obey until death to an open ended contract without any parameters leaving the door wide open for divorce.
When asked his secret of love, being married fifty-four years to the same
person, he said, "Ruth and I are happily incompatible."
Billy Graham
person, he said, "Ruth and I are happily incompatible."
Billy Graham
As Always,
Little Tboca
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