Don't Lose Your Divorce - "He said, she said"

During the divorce process, cover your fanny so to speak and build a powerful case for your day in family law court. Check with your state and determine what type of evidence is acceptable in family law courts.  Now’s the time to quietly act as a good detective – turn your story into a fact based divorce case.

Pro se litigants have an extensive amount of work to do – they must study family laws and become familiar with the courtroom process. Eliminate the “he said, she said” testimony by preparing a powerful divorce case.  Divorce judges will not only appreciate your hard work, but in all probability make a favorable decision in your behalf. 

Go back a couple of years, gather up receipts showing date time and amounts, expenses how paid, pay stubs, deeds, bank statements, inventory of household items along with evidence of the value or worth of the items etc. 

Preparing your evidence for child custody is extremely important. Tell a story based on hard facts about your role in mentoring, supporting and caring for the children. Show medical bills including psychiatric or counseling for the child or children, bank statements, cancelled checks and proof of payment serve as strong evidence.  A log or journal showing time spent with children, the children’s extra curricular activities, vacations and anything that pertains to the welfare of the children.

Learn how to label document correctly, gather evidence, log evidence and prepare it for court. A few “don’ts,” many of you have probably heard about, but a reminder may prevent you from shooting yourself in the foot. 

1. Don’t discuss your divorce or other relationships on the social media – attorneys are wizards at using Facebook, twitter and if there’s a story out there they will find it.
2. Don’t use your credit cards unless there’s an emergency and don’t pay off cards that you share with your spouse at this time. Stay on a strict budget at this time.
3. Don’t text about your divorce and don’t get involved in an adulterous relationship – family law judges sort of frown on this…
4. Don’t snoop on your spouse’s personal affairs – there’s a fine line between snooping and gathering evidence. Be sure anything you do is legal in your State!
5. Last but most important go to court prepared to tell your judge your story with hard facts to back up all of your statements. 

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As Always,

Little Tboca

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Baby Boomers - Dashing for Divorce 2013

Baby boomers are becoming frequent flyers in divorce court – even divorce attorneys are surprised and rather confused. One would think that during the recession a couple would want to weather the storm until the economy turns around, but that’s not the case. 

The baby boomers  appear to be reinventing divorce – they’re hell bent on getting out of Dodge with an armload of retirement funds, the house and all that the couple has accumulated over 25 to 30 years.  Family law judges are all ready on overload and many boomers are opting for do it yourself divorce which is stressing family law courts.   

Muslims are reverting to divorce and hot on the boomer’s trail which only makes divorce a much more complex issue.  What are the hot buttons causing the discontent?  What is going on in our USA that is triggering the boomers and Muslims to opt for divorce?

Muslims and boomers are strange bed fellows and no one has a definitive explanation about this divorce phenomena – Muslims and boomers certainly are marching to someone else’s drum as they dash to the family law courts. 

The boomers are suffering from their decision to get a divorce; many are dipping into their retirement funds to pay daily expenses. Assets are divided leaving each party with some money, but they would have more to share as a couple.  When they were married, one spouse usually stayed at home to raise the children (meaning he or she may not have worked outside the home,) so spousal support may be in order.

For the Muslims marriage was Allah’s gift to mankind – the family supposedly should be resilient and thrive on the union of man and women. But, Allah being a wise God knew that not every relationship between man and women would work, so divorce is an option if there’s a valid reason.  Allah frowns on divorce when the married couple doesn’t have a valid reason for parting ways. 

Christian for years didn’t approve or support divorce but the norm has changed for them too – although most Christians have a difficult time accepting divorce they are much more tolerant than they were 10 or 15 years ago.

http://knowledgebase.findlaw.com/kb/2013/Apr/979275.html

Is it something in the air, the water or does the grass appear greener now to those wanting to dissolve their relationships. Could it be boredom from our high tech society – maybe we’ve become gadget and service poor. 

Or could the state of the nation be the culprit causing the discontentment due to a recession, morality dysfunction, corrupt Government and constant turmoil within our Country?  Maybe people are just on overload with too much to carry on their plates or maybe they’ve lost site of the things that once made our Nation resilient, strong and a safe haven for all. 

As Always,

Child Custody & Temporary Orders

If at the time of the temporary divorce hearing you are granted temporary custody of the children, child support, alimony and granted the right to live in the marital home until the divorce is final, remember the word “temporary.” 

 Don’t traipse out of divorce court thinking you’re about to slam dunk your spouse, because the family law judge granted you temporary custody of the children.

How you behave and handle the temporary orders will affect the judge’s final decision. Buyer beware - these orders by the divorce judge aren’t indicative of his or her final decision in court. Usually a divorce attorney will discuss temporary custody - the orders are for a limited amount of time only. 

If you become over zealous and get in a pay back mode, your king or queen for a day vacation will come crashing to a halt.  Don’t take unfair advantage of your spouse by running up excessive credit card charges, or neglecting your responsibilities in maintaining the marital residence.  Family law judges will take your behavior into consideration when granting a divorce. 

Denying your spouse visitation rights won’t just get your fingers burnt – it may be the reason the judge changes the custody orders.  You should encourage visitation rights with your spouse and definitely shouldn’t use the children as pawns to punish the other parent.

This is a time when you better take a deep breath and follow the temporary orders granted to you – ditch the anger and emotion. The judge didn’t give you a free pass to be abusive of your spouse.  

Don’t get on the social media and brag about the judge’s orders. Don’t assume that you’re home free – your day in court hasn’t arrived yet and what you do or say will be held against you.

Temporary means during the interim, nothing is etched in concrete. A family law judge will decide what is in the “best interest” of the children and if you’ve acted like a knuckle head during this time, there’s a strong probability that you will walk out of court very displeased with the judge’s final orders.

As Always,

Little Tboca

Marriage or Shacking Up

Marriage without a true commitment usually ends up in divorce court. Pro se divorce has become the norm – family law judges are left with the shattered pieces of a marriage and expected to deliver favorable decisions. Divorce statistics show that over half of the marriages end up in divorce. 

There was a time when shacking up, opting for single parenthood and same sex marriages wasn’t the norm – but in 2013 Americans participate in all of the above without ever considering consequences. Children raised without a father’s influence is the norm – somewhere around 20 to 30 million children are without a father figure.

"Ominously, the most reliable predictor of crime is neither poverty nor race but growing up fatherless." 
Fortune Magazine

Georgia Supreme Court Chief Justice Leah Ward Sears said recently, “ children born to unmarried women and to those in cohabiting relationships "must often overcome increased risks of poverty, education failure, child abuse, delinquency, emotional distress and mental illness."……the lack of a father's guidance in children's lives is a major cause of their suffering. "Marriage is the best child welfare, crime prevention, anti-poverty program we have," 

Isn’t it ironic that two consenting adults ignore the horrific consequences that occur from their selfish desire to do as they please without taking responsibility for the children that they bring into this world. 

As the norm changes so do the traditional values once associated with marriage.  Love, honor and obey till death do us part has been relegated to the ancient history shelves – the nonchalant attitude in many marriage isn’t based on vows but on convenience, material things and finances.  It’s sort of the old adage that two heads are better than one – two paychecks, a bed partner and a path to materialism.

Both parties enter the marriage with a “try it see if we like it” attitude actually the only commitment if one could call it that is we’ll give marriage a try, but divorce is their get out of jail free card. 

A High Court family judge, Sir Paul Coleridge suggests couples should not have children unless they have a stable relationship. Divorce is at epidemic proportions and is once again the norm in the USA. Something is definitely wrong with this picture. 

No one is pointing their finger at the people who wish to cohabitate, but everyone should be concerned for the children from these adults who are left to fend for themselves.  They’re the latch key kids or the children who are raised by the daycare technicians and schools – is it any wonder that this group of children struggle in their adult lives? 

As Always,

Little Tboca
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Divorce - What About the Children

Family law judges and divorce attorneys will say the best interest of the children is a priority in a divorce case. It’s not a secret that most family law judges make children their priority when handing down their final divorce decision.  

If you are a pro se litigant you’re filing or have filed for divorce, understand that the children come first in most divorces. 

Obviously family law judges should make final divorce decisions for both parties by determining what the “best interest" for the child or children.”  

But, the laws of our land serve as guidelines and some judges take it upon themselves to step outside of this window which at times isn’t in the “best interest” of the children. 

Here is an example of the "best interests" of the children written by an outstanding judge’s judge now retired.  Her history on the bench will show that the children came first when making final divorce decisions.  Judge Ann Kass said the “best interests” of children had many meanings and she took all precautions when children were involved in divorce.  

http://www.divorcerecovery101.com/kass2.html

Prepare your case for your day in court, but be sure you make the children your priority.  What is truly best for the child or children - who has been the primary caregiver?  Which parent has the time and desire to put the children first? What are the wishes of the children?  Are both parents emotionally stable and capable of mentoring and raising the children, if so joint custody is an excellent choice? 

Here is an excellent site that discusses children, parenting and divorce. http://www.divorcesource.com/ds/children/children-and-divorce-221.shtml

It was one of those ridiculous arrangements that couples make when they are separating, but before they are divorced—when they still imagine that children and property can be shared with more magnanimity than recrimination. ~ John Irving

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Little Tboca

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Divorce - the 3 D's

It’s your day in Court – first impression in the Courtroom is extremely important. Leave your anger, frustration and pity parties at the door – revisit them in the privacy of your home but never in front of the Judge. Remember your manners, speak softly make eye contact and put on a happy face. 

Does anyone really care what how you dress?  You can bet your bottom dollar that the Judge, your soon to be ex and his or her attorney are checking you out from head to toe. 

                                                                                         

Men should wear dress slacks or a suit. Levis and a sloppy shirt hanging over your mid section just doesn’t fly in the courtroom if you’re trying to make a good impression.  A nice hair cut adds a subtle touch and a soft pastel colored shirt makes a perfect picture. If possible cover all tattoos, remove any nose rings and for Pete’s sake leave the profanity at home.

Women should cover body parts, not having anything hanging out, over or flopping.  Dress like this is the most important day of your life, which it may well be if you come to court looking like a lady of the night. Pastels are a great choice, red is probably a little too bold and black may be a little too stern. Don’t come flaunting orange or purple hair and leave the “tiger claws” at home.

Keep your composure, don’t give way to frowns, muttering under your breath, shaking your head or pointing your fingers at anyone. If there are children, refer to them at all times saying, “our children,” not my children. Good rule of thumb until the divorce is final it’s good when being descriptive to say our home, our vehicles or our debts etc…

If your spouse has council and you’re a pro se litigant be prepared to be ripped, diced and sliced by his or her attorney. Do not act defensive or angry, smile and answer questions accurately and quietly. You’ve arrived in court with a slew of “hot buttons” turn them off and don’t fall prey to lies, accusations or threats.

Before you head to Court, learn how to create a strong powerful case that tells your story based on facts and hard evidence. Learn how to eliminate the“he said, she said” testimony.  The D's of divorce, "Dress - Demeanor - Data."  Dress appropriately, control emotions and present a powerful case, not a sob story. 

Have a Great Day

As Always,

Little Tboca

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Child Abuse is Prevalent in the USA

Each state has laws on child abuse and it's best to pull up you state government site and review the child abuse laws.  Abuse to children is prevalent in our nation and it's important to put the child's safety first - often times family members or friends refrain from getting involved and the child is left to fiend for themselves. There is one thing that keeps ringing a bell in my ears though, "We are our brother's keeper."

The most common elements of child abuse in all States is physical abuse, sexual abuse or neglect and this can be difficult to identify if the child is young and unable to communicate the abuse to others. Children suffer for years form physical abuse without anyone realizing or knowing they are suffering. At times a spouse refuses to admit that their husband and/or wife is actually abusing the children. Other times both parents are abusive and that leaves the child or children without any protection.

Some of the States child abuse laws contains exemptions for Christian Scientists or religion - this again leaves the children without a liaison to protect them. Recently, a little toddler died in my State because there wasn't anyone to intervene and she was left at the mercy of others.

Although the news media tries to help by exposing the abuse, there are times that one spouse, a family member or friend actually make false allegations.  Child abuse awareness is important, but equally important is the devastating affects that false allegations have on families. If false allegations are made you should get legal counsel and fight the allegations - don't take the passive, it will pass, attitude.

Correct the problem immediately or sometime in the future, someone may bring up the fact that you were accused of child abuse.  Clear the air right away - don't allow false allegations to give the wrong perception.

Don't lose your temper if authorities are involved, let your legal counsel help you for this may well be the bloodiest battle of you lifetime.

Stay close to your children during this time and continue giving them great care, good mentoring and unconditional love. Like divorce or any other challenge involving the children, always try to do what is in the best interest of the children.

If you have been accused of child abuse and are innocent, don't let a spouse or outside meddlers get away with false allegations. The other side of this coin is this - if you have neglected your child or are guilty of abusive treatment to your children, than hopefully someone will intercede and keep the children safe.

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Pro Se Divorce Litigants - the Good, Bad & Ugly

The good news is pro se divorce litigants can receive a favorable decision from the family law judge. The bad news is just because you have the right to represent yourself doesn't mean you will win in divorce court. The ugly is strictly this - too many pro se litigants go to court totally unprepared.

The American Bar Association and over 1200 judges that were interviewed say that pro se litigants lose more than they should in divorce cases. So often the pro se litigant doesn't receive a favorable decision from the divorce judge - the ABA explains some of the reasons. 

The American Bar Association says, “Not knowing the legal requirements or procedural rules, omitting important signatures, not following Court schedule, missing deadlines are but a few of the problems that Pro Se litigants experience.” 

The Judges responded by saying, pro se divorce litigants are struggling and often lose more than they should in divorce court.  Statistics also show that a large percentage of pro se litigants leave the courtroom with their bucket half empty. 

A few other problems that weakens a pro se litigants divorce case can't be blamed on the judicial system; (They don't know the Statute of Limitations in their State, (2) They don't know how to fill out interrogatories, and (3) They don't know how to serve papers legally on their spouse. All it takes is a click of the mouse to find the answers on their State's Government website under divorce or family law.

The laws of our land do say one has the right to represent himself, but there are many responsibilities that accompany that law. If you want to receive a favorable decision from the divorce judge, you must be prepared to back up your statements in court with evidence or hard facts. Study family divorce law, build your case and learn courtroom protocol. Pro se litigation seems to be the new fad - but buyer beware.  

Representing yourself requires a lot of hard work. Most State government sites offer workshops and a variety of venues that will assist you in preparing your divorce case. There is a company ( www.caseboss.com) not launched yet that has 30 openings available for those contemplating or going thru divorce. 

They are offering the use of their site free of charge for 1 year, no hidden charges. If you've never had experiencing building or creating a case - send their team an email and they'll be glad to get you started. 

Divorce is tough and pro se litigants have one day in court and a small window of time to present their case to a family law judge. Don’t end up in divorce court with a bunch of lose papers, receipts and sticky notes – build a case that is airtight and strive for a favorable decision from the judge. Quit shuffling thru papers, learn how to organize documents by day, time and subject – learn how to create specific reports, tag information and prepare a strong case.  

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As Always,
Little Tboca

Divorce Den – One Party Didn't Have Their Seat belt On

Possibly the biggest mistake made by those contemplating divorce is allowing their emotions to dictate their actions. Contested divorces usually end up in a potentially dangerous roller coaster ride that can and often ends up in a super crash, because one party didn’t have their seat belt on…

It’s human nature to want to punish and pay back your spouse, and that’s exactly the reason so many people settle for detours. Getting a divorce isn’t easy by any stretch of the imagination and you owe it to yourself to slow down and learn what is involved in the divorce process.

Detours like paying $149 bucks for divorce forms that often aren’t approved by your state’s courts or falling for the false information that is offered on going pro se (self - representation.)  Pro se divorce is a tough way to go if you and your spouse can’t agree on child custody, alimony or division of marital assets.

Anger, confusion and the intense desire to take control of one’s life can lead to detours that actually derail your chance to control your destiny. Before heading down the bumpy divorce road, find out what your options are and develop a game plan. 

One of the safest ways to get the correct divorce forms is from your state’s government website. Each state offers a roadmap explaining in how to file for divorce. Go to your government website and search for divorce.

Before filing for divorce study your state family laws. Find out what your state’s Statute of Limitations, learn how to legally serve papers on your spouse and verify what family law court will handle your divorce case.  This is just preliminary information, but will prevent many mistakes as you head into the divorce process.

Most of the state government sites give you step by step instruction on filing your papers, answering interrogatories, temporary orders etc. If children are involved, study the information at theses sites on child custody, child support and parenting time. There’s a wealth of knowledge available if you just take the time to study and read it.

Another excellent resource is http://family.findlaw.com/divorce/  this site offers in depth information on family law, divorce, child custody, alimony, division of marital assets and offers the government websites in each state where you can get your divorce forms.

It’s your life, your future and it is possible to experience a favorable decision from the family law judge. Control your emotions, develop a good game plan and be diligent about finding answers to all of your questions. 

As Always,

Little Tboca

Divorce – Child Custody Issues

The “Best Interest of the Children” is a phrase worth remembering.  If your divorce is being contested, the judge may be the one who has to make the final custody decisions.  The priority of most family law judges is the children, because technically they are acting as a liaison for the children.  Thank goodness divorce judges put the children first.

If the parents can work out the custody situation together actually thinking about the best interest of their child or children, it can be a win win situation for both parents and the children.

When both parents have been equal or almost equal caregivers, possibly joint custody would be a good choice. This allows parents to make decisions for the children on education, health, extra curricular activities, religion etc. Joint custody does appear best for the parents and/or children - when the children are shuffled back from one home to the other it may be a hard adjustment for the children to make.

Judges will delve into the joint custody issue, because he or she wants to feel that both parents are accountable, responsible and capable of making decisions together in the best interest of the child or children.  It’s a difficult call for a judge, because they are trying to decide if both parents are equal in their parenting capabilities and if both parents can work as a team to mentor, love and care for the little ones. 

Physical custody and legal custody are often intertwined.  The physical piece of this type custody means the child will live with one parent the majority of the time. This parent is considered the “custodial parent.”

The non custodial parent may be granted physical custody which means he or she will be a decision maker in important issues like health, education and religion etc.

With unmarried parents, laws in most states favor giving the mother sole custody if in fact she has demonstrated that she is a good parent. If the mother is unable to care for the child, the other parent (father) usually gets custody.

Family law judges get beaten up for making the tough custody decisions, but remember they consider the child first and what is in the “best interest of the child.”  

Custody of the children is the toughest decision family law judges must make, because sometimes it seems both parents have shared equal responsibility in rearing the children.  At times when the child or children are older the judge may talk with them and ask them their preferences. 

It is a good idea to check out your state’s family laws specifically the child custody laws regarding primary caregivers. Both parents should try to make the best choice for the children and not use the children as pawns in their divorce.

As Always,

Little Tboca

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Little Tboca

Facing the Divorce Dilemma - guest blogger

Welcome to James Scott, guest blogger. Excited to have James contribute to "Divorce Den."

Consider these points :-

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•       First and foremost the main problem faced with divorce is that for the most part the husband and wife, or partners, are obviously very emotionally upset with the upheaval and the outcome of their decision to divorce. 

•       No matter how hard you try once you are embroiled in the process of any break-up it is too difficult to be emotionally logical and practical. This means that neither party are able to think sensibly or without bias. You will need independent advice from someone who is not personally known, as a friend or acquaintance, to you or your partner.

• ·        For some people the break up will mean the end of a lifestyle and a loss of their home, perhaps having spent the majority of their adult life bringing up children and building a home together.  Others may have perhaps been together for a shorter time but be involved in a binding legal business partnership, which is the main financial support for the family. All existing physical and mental stabilities in normal life are now changed.

• ·         Until the problems of the divorce dilemma is faced with an unbiased focus there will seem to be no way forward for the persons involved which only adds to the mental anguish of the partners. Unfortunately you may be so distraught with the initial cause of the marriage break down that looking at the situation clearly will be all but impossible, you may initially feel that you just want ‘out’ as quickly as possible without considering any of the resulting chaos which may occur if you do this.

• ·        This legally binding marriage has to be broken sensibly and fairly for both parties involved. There may be property, children, money or perhaps a business partnership all in the mix to be dealt with. This is where you have the need for support. Some people are lucky and may have strong family ties or good friends to help them through the process.  

      However more often than not, the solicitor chosen to handle the case is the only one who will be able to have access to all the necessary legal aspects which must be dealt with!

My advice therefore is to choose your legal advice carefully!

5 main points to help you through the divorce dilemma:

1.      1.   Make some personal decisions about what outcome you would like from the divorce and try to look on the ‘up side’ of the split........there will be some! Do the pros and con’s list – this is for your own personal use, once you see it written down it will help you to make further decisions.

2.      2.   If you are able to discuss and agree any part of your divorce outcome with your partner - do it. Your solicitor will be able to check out and carry forward any of your wishes and advise you on the practical side of the decisions which will affect you personally.

3.     3.    Ask around; check social and advertising media to find the solicitor who may have specialist knowledge of your circumstances.

4.     4.  Consider legal and personal financial costs – whatever legal advice you take will have to be paid for and divorce fees are now quite competitive.

5.      5.   Think carefully about this piece of advice which is given with experience:  do not consider the other party in your decisions. Remember the cause of a divorce often comes happens with the end of caring for the other partner anyway!  He/she will have their own solicitor/family/friends to support their wishes and they may not be considering your feelings and future at all.

Whatever the reason for the break up you should always ask solicitors who will be able to provide you with the correct legal advice relating to your situation. Your solicitor must have full knowledge of all the legally binding ties between both parties involved in the divorce. Without accurate information of your financial and obligatory ties with the other party involved your solicitor will not be able to help and support you. Getting this information correct is crucial to a happy outcome for everyone.

James Scott

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Pro Se Litigant vs. Attorney

The face off between your spouse’s legal counsel and yourself (Pro se) isn’t a pretty picture. One is experienced in courtroom procedure, knows family law like the back of their hand and the other is in between a rock and a hard place.  So what would be the best approach for a pro se litigant when he’s going into the game with two strikes against him?

Many remember the story about the shepherd boy and Goliath – a young boy had come to the table to do a man’s job.  You can go to divorce court prepared to wear the hat of an attorney if you’re willing to roll up your sleeves, sweat and do the hard work.  

Don’t depend on a bunch of glorified advertisement about how easy it is to represent yourself in a court of law – it’s not easy.  It takes determination, resilience and the ability to acquire the tools that will allow you to present a strong case in court. 

The government site in your state will get you off to a good start, find out exactly what divorce forms are required, how to serve your spouse, what the Statute of Limitations are and determine which court in your area will hear your divorce.

The government sites usually offer support by addressing the laws on divorce with or without children, alimony, child custody, division of marital assets and most states have workshops, self help venues that are easily accessed. 

If you’re going to whip it on Goliath, then learn everything you can about family law and courtroom protocol. Don’t ever assume that the divorce judge will give you a favorable decision because you’re a good person, have been responsible and faithful to your soon to be ex. 

You need to go back several years document everything concerning the marital relationship, make three copies of the information and have hard evidence to present to the family law judge. 

Here’s an example of the “he said, she said” testimony that won’t hold up in court.  If you go to your banker and say I deposited $700 in my account last week and it wasn’t credited to my account. The banker will say, “Mr. Jones show me evidence, a receipt or proof that you made this deposit.

This is exactly what the divorce judge will say in court,” show me proof that you’ve been the primary caregiver of the children, that you’ve been a responsible party. Learn how to craft and build a powerful winning case for the judge. It’s your life, your future and the divorce judge has a small window of time to review evidence and make final decisions. www.caseboss.com hasn't launched yet and offering the use of their software free for one year - learn how to organize your documents, prepare a winning case for divorce court.  

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Little Tboca

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Divorce - Child Custody

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Divorce Isn’t a Fix All

Divorce in 2013 presents many problems which are out of your control. In addition to dissolving a marital relationship one must think about the existing economic environment in our Nation. 

Family law judges can’t predict the future and must make their decisions based on present circumstances. 

The recession is still alive and gnawing at our heels – our Nation has acquired a National deficit that is at this point and time almost unsustainable.  Factors such as Obamacare, EPA regulations are determinants that will and are affecting the work force.

What the future holds for those contemplating or going thru divorce is unknown at this time.  One or both parties may lose their jobs or be demoted to part time jobs.  If individuals have to pay for their own health insurance, this will reduce the anticipated monthly income.

It’s the unknowns in 2013 that make divorce such an unpredictable issue. Will there be money to meet monthly bills, pay child support, alimony if you find yourself in the unemployment line?  Will the children suffer dramatically due to your decision?  Will divorce harm both parties and the children at this time?

Anger, emotions, economic problem, financial issues all factor into your decision to get a divorce.  If there’s abuse or excessive problems with addiction, it may be best to get some legal support and discuss your options at this time.  

Probably one of the safest things that one can do before filing divorce papers is to set up a free consultation with an attorney.  Find out how divorce will affect you financially now and in the future.  Find out how marital assets will be divided and discuss what would be in the “best interest” of the children.  Discuss alimony, child custody and liabilities with the attorney.

Divorce is advertise as a commodity that will give you an overnight fix to all of your problems – it is a family law that allows parties to dissolve a marriage, but not necessarily remove personal responsibility or liability. 

As Always,

Little Tboca

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