Marketing Divorce

 "Divorce" is marketed  almost like the company that sells  "Stuffies" for kids. It's the latest and greatest gift for adults - the way to dump the spouse, buy a showroom model and get back all that new fangled "freedom" you once had - its a "fad" that everyone raves about... Everyone is doing it, well not everyone but about 50% of all marriages end up in divorce.

You see ads for the quickie "do it yourself" divorce which would lead one to believe that if you jot your John Henry down on a few papers you're free as a bird. It's a slick way to remove the burdensome clutches of a mate that you no longer like or want in your life - almost as good as a "get out of jail" free card.

Then there's the sites selling divorce forms for a small fee along with a dab of assistance- this type of merchandising is sort of like shopping for car insurance, just dial in the price you want to pay and it's a done deal. It's a case of if it looks too good to be true it probably is...

One of the worst problems is the sites advertising "pro se" divorce showboating your right to represent yourself without legal counsel.  All you gotta do is just download the forms, fill them out and trot right off to divorce court - this leaves the pro se litigant at the mercy of the court. This is true,  pro se divorce is legal, but full of loopholes if one doesn't accept the responsibilities that accompany this right.

So many of the divorce videos are just like a Saturday Night Live divorce satire - short on information and long on "crazy."  The movie star divorces are truly a different cat and their divorce shenanigans can't be compared to the average divorce. The stars love the publicity and have an unlimited amount of money at their finger tips - they hire the high powered attorneys, keep a continuing dialogue with the news media and spend their spare time posing for pictures.

So back to divorce - isn't it time to concentrate on positive avenues that might prevent divorce?  Here's something to dwell on for a bit...

What I've Learned

I've learned that you cannot make someone love you.
All you can do is be someone who can be loved.
The rest is up to them.

I've learned that there are people who love you dearly,
but just don't know how to show it.

I've learned that just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to, it doesn't mean they don't love you all they can.

I've learned that we don't have to change friends
if we understand that friends change.

I've learned that two people can look at the exact same thing
and see something totally different.

I've learned that just because two people argue,
it doesn't mean they don't love each other.
And just because they don't argue,
it doesn't mean they do.

- Omer Washington

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