Mediate - Collaborate or Bully

Divorce is tough even in the best of circumstances when both parties are willing to work together to resolve problems.  Many couples facing divorce are still able to communicate and agree on child custody, division of marital assets, who stays in the home and how their liabilities will be divided.

 

Others who struggle with communication choose mediation or collaboration as options – by bringing a third party or parties to the table they seem to function rather well in making final decisions about their divorce.  

There are many divorces where the couples meet in the middle, no contest and wrap up their divorce in a neat little package that both agree upon.  Not all divorces are contentious and doomed to head for divorce court – this is a good thing and often has the best positive outcome for both parties. 

But there is another side to some marital relationships that lack communication or the desire to resolve their differences.  This marital relationship is toxic and one or both parties have “pay - back” etched on their foreheads. 

   

One or both spouses are “power driven” and refuse to collaborate or mediate – they want the lion’s share of marital assets and total custody of the children.  They live their lives via intimidation and threats – usually fearful though of any type of mediation because this would show a weakness on their part. 

Sometimes the marital relationship has been totally broken due to one or both parties refusing to communicate.  Without a line of communication nothing can be settled or resolved so the couple will probably end up in divorce court. 

There are a few red flags to watch out for in these very contentious divorces that are anger and emotionally charged.  Does your spouse have a high powered divorce attorney?  Are the children being used as pawns?  Has your spouse tampered with joint savings or bank accounts? 

The safest way to protect yourself and your children is to at least have a consult with a divorce attorney.  Find out what your legal rights are before it’s too late.  No one cares as much about the outcomes of this divorce as you do – so carefully weigh your options and take the necessary steps to receive a favorable decision from a divorce judge. 

Once the divorce is final, each parties lifestyles change and one must wonder was it for the good of both parties?

Nowadays love is a matter of chance, matrimony a matter of money, and divorce a matter of course. ~ Helen Rowland

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